Psychotherapy is a process of discovery and liberation. It helps you understand yourself and your relationships better. It encourages you to be who you are now, not who you once had to be. It helps you become more instinctive and confident in your decisions, and less likely to be pulled this way and that by other people.
No-one is 100% free. We all have to pay the bills and rub along with difficult people. But inner wellbeing comes from being as true to ourselves as we possibly can.
If we are living to please others, or fit in, or to be something we were conditioned to be, then the psychological strain can lead to physical and emotional dysfunctions. When these phenomena persist for a long time they develop into more or less fixed states, and malaise becomes habitual and ‘normal’. They can be expressed through depression; anxiety; psychosomatic illnesses; impulsiveness; passivity; feeling ‘stuck’ or making poor choices in life.
Psychotherapy is a confidential, non-judgmental space in which therapist and client work together with honesty and compassion. It is not always easy; but it is a place to make peace with the past, deal with the present and explore the future you want.
HOW LONG DOES PSYCHOTHERAPY TAKE?
Psychotherapy sessions take place weekly. Some people come for a few months to help them through a critical phase. Others appreciate the opportunity to delve deeper into themselves and their relationships and may stay for several years. I strongly discourage dependency on therapy – the whole point is to help you become more autonomous – but regularity and commitment are important.